Americans are staying single longer. The median age at first marriage had reached its highest point on record: 30 years for men and 28 years for women in 2018, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. But behind this cultural shift is a disruption of self-worth and feminine values. A woman might move in with her boyfriend, not taking into consideration if he’s worthy of marriage. Another woman might pay for her boyfriend, not realizing she deserves to be taken out.
A girlfriend…
A girlfriend is figuring out what she needs before giving away her heart.
A girlfriend is still deciding if he shows up for her in the ways that are important.
Rather than waiting around to figure out what man shows up in life, she is deciding, and hopefully writing down what she needs. She is still examining the relationships in her life that did not work out, and identifying what she needs in her life, on her terms.
Don’t give away your heart too soon. Sit down and make a list of the things you need in a partner. Do you need a:
man who is emotionally present?- partner who shares your religious values?
What is important to you might not be important to someone else, so don’t feel pressured when other people make comments about your needs. Once you figure this out, don’t waste your time with the partners who can’t give you what you need.
A girlfriend is getting to know her prospective life partner.
When we fall in love, it’s so easy to paint a picture in our heads about who that person is, what his values are, and what the future together will be like. When we do this, we do not allow a man to earn a place in our lives.
Likewise, a man will appreciate a place in your heart if he’s earned his right to be there.
A Wife….
A Wife Is Prepared To Deal With The Highs And Lows Of Love
A wife navigates the highs and lows of love, growing and developing, alongside her partner and as an individual.
There is no long-term relationship that remains exactly the same over the years. Be ready, in advance knowing that your marriage can change over the time, and that these changes are normal, might save your marriage. If you try to prepare yourself and your loved one in advance for these highs and lows, your love will grow stronger as time goes on.
A Wife Has Built A Fortitude of Emotional Resilience
The higher degree of emotional resilience you have with your other half, the easier you can handle the stress and the better you can cope with your daily life.
Many studies show that if you boost emotional resilience, you can manage the crises more calmly and easily.
Moreover, emotional resilience is an ideal trait in a marriage because this great ability helps you to alter all the relationship challenges and change your life with your significant other for better.
A Wife Resists The Routine
Oftentimes, you may feel very close and intimate at the beginning of the relationship. You may not even realize how you might have fallen into a rut and become distant and disconnected.
To avoid that, you have to break your relationship routine and keep things fresh!
A Wife Is Done Trying To Change Her Partner
Once married, you may find that you have both started trying to change each other, in order to address weaknesses you think can be improved.
Even with the best of intentions, this is not good for your relationship . Stop trying to change your loved one! Instead, love and accept your partner for who he/she truly is!
She Avoids Barriers to Intimacy
Avoid all barriers to intimacy at all costs.
If you find that you are someone who embodies any of the following:
- always needing to be right
- always needing to win
- shutting down
- being defensive
- being judgmental not listening
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18 responses to “Understanding Wife & Girlfriend Privileges”
Thank u very much for this post. I am in the deciding stages about whether my man is the Right Man and can truly be a husband. These few thoughts are helping in the process. Thanks!
Good advice. In my 40’s, I’ve learned to be careful with lists. In the past, I only got what I thought I wanted and needed. Now I pray for: The best man for me, my son, and my lifetime. The wisdom to recognize and accept him. The courage to be the best mate possible. Amen.
I’ve also learned that a man may not always be your best friend; men are different communicators. Maintain connections with family and friends.
I agree 100% with all that was said… I am the type of woman that takes my time to get to know someone. You know talk about different things we each enjoy doing, children (because I have three) ,what type of music we both listen to and so forth. I base my decision to date someone on the things we have in common, personality, and the way he answers certain questions. Looks are important but not to be based on in search of a relationship.
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I love #4. I never thought of relationships that way.
I love this website will tell others
Well said, everything you mention is so true. All women should come on this website, they will learn a few things well. Thank you so so much. I will be on this website a lot.
A men who is going to be there emotional and physivcal so, through hard and pain a man you will always feel safe to be around, and the most important a man who will always show you how deeply he loves you and always put a smile on ur face With love!
Wow! I really needed this.
God Bless you!
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An honest post that compels us to re-examine and differentiate between our needs and our wants.
Well said, in addition a man who can express himself (referring to feelings), a man who will encourage you and bring balance/positivity in your life.
I agree with you 110%. I find women have very high expectation in a man but very low esteem of themselves. I think before a woman get into any relationship with a man they should get into a relationship with themselves, first. Know yourself before you bring another person in your world. Thank you Kimberly for uplifting our spirits.
Thank you for reminding me. I have wonderful husband who communicates with me on daily basic and even in deep engaged conversation. I m and my husband still respect ourselves inside and outside.
Thank you for your insight about relationship in different planes of level.
I believe that things in life happens when they should but the outcomes depends on the path one takes. I have made to many miss-takes in my lifetime that it comes to a point where I need to take care of me. One major issue I ad was that I allowed men to choose me and not me doing the choosing. Another problem was that I compromised my interest and offered myself for other people to have their plans fulfilled by me. I will take your advice as of now and pen the values I what in a man. Things I would not compromise. It took me this 46 years to come to this stage in my life. Its better late than never. Looking forward to live the rest of my adult life in peace, happiness and joy.
Thank you Kimberly Elise for taking the time to connect with us. Much love and respect to you.
Im un this deciding stage he thinks Loyalty is all that is needed in this relationship and the catering to me don’t get me wrong Love it but the blatant disrepect he let others do is really wearing me down help
I decided to take the pen to paper after reading this post to find clarity in the question “What do I need?” About halfway through, I realized that I’ve known someone who fits what I most want in a partner all along. He is a longtime friend, a gentle human being and a constant cheerleader. Its amazing what can happen when we question our innermost thoughts and desires. Amazing!
I met this guy on Facebook we been talking 2mos but he want to have a relationship n build from there .he’ll always texting all day long n in the morning before he goes to work